I was sitting in Taco Bell having lunch today when I noticed (sorry, I couldn't help it!) two college-age girls wearing clothes intentionally designed to catch attention. One girl's t-shirt said, "We're bringing sexy back." On the back of the other girl's shorts were the words, "Salute these shorts."
Now, if you're reading this and you're a woman, I have a question for you: Do girls not realize what they're doing when they wear clothes like this? Are they just naive? Or, possibly, do they do it on purpose to capture guys, like throwing bait out to a hungry fish?
Because that's what guys think girls are doing. To a guy's brain, a girl who dresses seductively is inviting guys to have sex with them. I know you probably disagree, but that's how men interpret women who dress provocatively or wear suggestive sayings on the back of their t-shirts and shorts.
Ironically, when these girls walked into Taco Bell I was reading Donald Miller's book, To Own a Dragon: Reflections on Growing Up without a Father. Chapter 10 is called "Sex: The Value of the Dollar in Argentina" (typical of Miller is wacky chapter titles...you have to read the chapter to understand it).
In that chapter Miller writes about why women should not send out "I want to have sex with you" messages to guys:
Women saying no to men, not letting men have sex with them, causes men to step up. If, in order to have sex with them, women demanded you got a job and shaved every day and didn't dress like a dork or sit around playing video games, then all of us [men] would do just that. So, when sex gets cheapened, we are getting what we want without having to pay for it. [When women just give sex away] women are imitating men, I think. The presupposition is that men are right, and in order for a woman to be successful, she should not act like a woman but like a man. Thanks for the compliment, but I disagree. I think men need women to be women, and we [men] need to be made to jump through some hoops. If a woman withholds sex until she gets what she wants, we are all better for it.
What Miller is saying is that women need to think more highly of themselves. When a girl flaunts her body or dresses seductively, she is saying to guys (whether she realizes it or not), "Hey look at me, I'm cheap, I'm a body you can use for your own selfish gratification, and you don't have to give up anything." That's such a sell-out. And guys will take advantage of the offer.
See, women hold the power when it comes to sex. If they will withhold sex from guys until marriage like the Bible says to do, they will both dignify themselves and teach men to be responsible citizens, faithful husbands, and good fathers and workers. If, on the other hand, women give themselves away without expecting commitment and work from men, they lose their dignity, their beauty, and their power, and they allow men to become selfish pigs.
So girls, act like women instead of men. Be feminine. Be modest. Make guys jump through some hoops. I'm not saying you need to cover your bodies from head to toe like Muslim women, but you definitely need to stop advertising that your body is for sale...cheap.